The Struggles Of A Single Mother
Unfortunately the rate of single mothers have increased significantly over the years. Please don’t be ashamed instead let motherhood help you grow into a new season of your life.
When we speak on the terms single mothers we are referring to a mom who primarily care for their child(ren). This may consist of:
Making sure the child eats
Shopping/Making sure the child has clothes
Doctors Appointments
Homework
Teaching them to be independent
Making sure the children get their proper nutrition
Proper resting
Keeping them safe
Etc…
SINGLE Mothers mental health
Single mothers come in many forms. I have met many married women who would still be considered a single mother. Motherhood isn’t meant to be easy for it is a gift from God. Sometimes God placed us in this situation and other times we went against Gods will and placed ourselves in it - but what the enemy meant for evil God always meant it for good.
Pregnancy
During pregnancy we go through so many hormonal changes that we really don’t understand. It alters our physical appearance along with our mental state. We have an entire human growing inside of us. Please don’t beat yourself up over the feeling, instead listen to your body and trust in God.
I remember during my first pregnancy it was so easy! I had a little morning sickness but I worked up until my job required me to take maternity leave. My second pregnancy was much more difficult MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY. Aside from the morning sickness I would feel weak and dizzy. I had been working from the age of 14 so the feeling of not working made me feel lazy and mentally drained. I had felt so lonely and didn’t know how I would get through it. I had contraction pains from 7-9 months because I was dilated 3 centimeters the entire time. I was miserable! But lets just say my daughter - who is now 7 - and saved my life.
Don’t allow someone else situation to effect yours. Every pregnancy is different.
After Delivery
We expect our bodies to go right back to the way it was before we ever was pregnant and that may not be the case. It takes time! After delivery could be stressful because your body needs to heal while you are still responsible to care for the baby. Lets not talk about breastfeeding because that will drain you even more. After pregnancy mentally can be a lot. All babies are different and require different needs. This can be frustrating because some children are in and out the hospital and/or require special attention. We no longer get time to ourselves and we isolate ourselves from others to hide our pain. After delivery allow grace into your heart. Give yourself credit and don’t beat yourself up! Give yourself TIME! Take care of your body and love yourself. This is so much easier done than said.
spiritual outlook
God put you through tests and trials for HIS greater purpose. Whenever you feel overwhelmed Thank God. Thank him for everything that he has blessed you with. God is so patient with us - so remain patient with your child. We are not perfect and mess up so much and yet God forgive us time after time. Gods way is the way we should follow when we parent. Although we would NEVER be perfect because no one ever was/is - aside from Jesus - we can learn from our mistakes through God .
Prayer
Father God I come to you today as humble as I can just to say Thank You. I want to say Thank you for giving me the strength to make it through the day. I ask that you bring peace into our hearts and learn from our children. Learn how you are using them for our good. I ask that you give us a mind like Christ to spread love and kindness even during time of hurt. I asks for wisdom. I want to be more knowledgeable of what you have planned for me - to be more in tune spiritually than fleshly. In Jesus Mighty Name. Amen.
